Tuesday, December 22, 2009

A giving update...

The tallies are in...

drum roll please...

So far from our annual appeal we have received $6,480!!

Thank you so much to all of those who have contributed... it is GREATLY appreciated!!

As the snow gently falls, the presents are wrapped and the scent of the food made with love wafts through the house, I hope you take a moment to look around and savor all of the magical moments this Holiday season.

We here at HOPE Center hope you enjoy your friends and family and take time to nurture the important relationships in your life.

Thursday, December 10, 2009

See Me!

Today has been a busy day full of clients, and today I was privileged enough to spend some time with one of the clients little girls. She is 3 and so we colored and played while mommy met with the advocates to determine her next steps.

She was spinning around on a chair in my office and apparently I wasn't paying enough attention and she said "Hey... Hey... See me! Look at me with your eyes! See Me!".

Isn't that what all of our clients, and all of us long for... to be seen, to be appreciated for our special talents, be it twirling in a chair, or coloring or something a bit more complex.

So today, please take the time to "see" those special people in your lives.

Annual Appeal Update...

So today has been a day of Thanks... catching up on the very important job of thank you letters to those who are so generous with their time and treasures and offering them to HOPE Center. So having just finished with that process I have an update for everyone!

As of 12/10/09 we have received $2,620.00! I will continue to update this as we go along.

Thanks to all those who have contributed!!
It is much appreciated!

Monday, November 30, 2009

A day of learning...

Today I got the chance to go to St. Olaf for a few different things. My morning was spent talking to a class about the HOPE Center, Relationship Violence, Prevention, Education and a little bit about how I got to HOPE Center as well as some self-care tips for those thinking of entering the Social Work field. I always enjoy talking to students who are in the midst of determining what life path they want to choose. There is so much excitement, hope and a sincere desire to learn more about who we are and what we do. And with this class there were lots of great questions and I only wish we had more time to talk more about all of the issues we deal with on a daily basis.

And in the afternoon I was part of a class that had done brochures for the HOPE Center on different issues. The topics included:

* DANCO's (Domestic Abuse No Contact Orders)
* You are Not Alone: Understanding and Help for Families of Abuse Survivors
* Marital Rape
* What You Can Do When Someone You Love Is Being Hurt
* Understanding Why She Stays- for family and friends

As a part of the civic engagement piece of the Marriage and Family class with their professor Ryan Sheppard they had come to do a tour of HOPE Center, to find out more about what we do and how we could help, they then took that information and ran with it creating some great brochures for us with lots of good information.

Today was the unveiling of the final projects and it was so fun to see the final product and to hear more about what they had learned from the classes.

A good way to spend a Monday :).

Monday, November 23, 2009

Getting into the Holiday Spirit...

We have already had several people ask about sponsoring a family, or what we need for the upcoming Holidays so here is our wishlist!

Do you want to be an Angel of New Beginnings this Holiday Season?

The celebration of the Holidays is an important part of family traditions across the world, and for many women and children we serve the Holidays mark the beginning of a new life, and new traditions. In the spirit of wanting to make this season as personal and as meaningful as possible for the women and children we support during this holiday season we would like to do things a little differently.

Here are the three ways we HOPE you will consider supporting us this year:

Gift Cards-

In the past we have asked for wish lists from our clients and then had community members adopt specific families. While that was wonderful- this year we want to involve our clients in the holiday fun, and let them be the elves. This allows our families to decide for themselves what will be the most meaningful, it allows them the joy of picking out exactly what their families most need and appreciate and most importantly enables them to be a part of the glad tidings and good cheer. We also want to be able to offer a chance for the children in the family to buy a gift for their mothers, something that in the past they often aren’t able to do.

What we need from you:

· Donations of Gift Cards for local stores (including grocery and gas cards) in denominations of $10, $25 and $50.

· Donations of gift wrap and tissue paper to give to the families

New Beginnings Basket-

Many of our clients are starting over with nothing, and so they need the essentials. Putting some or all these items in a clothes basket is incredibly needed and helpful for our families.

Basic Cleaning Supplies (laundry detergent, dish soap, glass cleaner, disinfectant cleaner etc.)

A Pot and a Pan

Silverware and dishes for 4

Dishtowel and dishrag

A candle

Garbage Bags

Kleenex

Paper towels

Pot holder

Toilet Paper

Pen and Pencil

Deck of Cards

Towel and Washcloth

Full size toiletries


  1. Adopt HOPE Center

We are always in need of the following things:

Copy Paper

Colored Paper (esp. teal and purple)

Legal Pads

Folders

Post-It’s

Highlighters

Glue Sticks

Ink Cartridges- [HP 94 and 97 or equivalent]

Kleenex

Jump Drives [6]

Blank Envelopes

Large Envelopes

Paper Towels

Napkins

Paper Plates

Styrofoam Cups

Cleaning Supplies

Diapers and wipes

Full size toiletries

Please bring all items to HOPE Center by December 18th.

Questions? Call 507-332-0882 or e-mail estaab@hopecentermn.org

Friday, November 20, 2009

Giving and Upgrading...

Giving the to Max...

So the numbers are in... and the spirit of giving spread throughout the entire state! People gave over $14 million dollars in just one day!! Over 3,000 non-profits benefited from that. What an amazing feat!!

Here at HOPE Center we had 14 donors and raised $1,573!!! We so appreciate you taking the time to think of us!!

On a different note...
I was looking through the ads for the upcoming Black Friday sales... and I was thinking of all of you who might be upgrading your technology this year. If Santa blesses you with a new computer, cell phone, ipod, game system etc. please keep us in mind as a place that would greatly appreciate your old ones. Two of our computers are on the brink and it isn't in the budget to get new ones.

Also remember we collect old cell phones, so we are happy to take those off your hands, and those it doesn't matter whether they are working or not, our program recycles the ones that aren't usable by our clients.

Thanks for thinking of us!

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Awed and inspired...

Well as many of you have heard from various sources it is Give to the Max day... people all over the state are choosing non-profits on www.givemn.org and sharing their money and passion for many wonderful organiziations.

Go here if you want to see more about HOPE Center or donate yourself:
http://www.razoo.com/story/Hope-Center-15

I was awed and inspired this morning when I came into work, turned on my computer and my inbox was filled with people who had chosen HOPE Center!

As of this afternoon we are up to $685.00!!

And all of that is eligible for the match from Give MN! But from what it sounds like there has been an incredible spirit of giving that has swept over the entire state... so although it will still be matched, it won't be $1 for $1... what a wonderful "problem", that the people of MN are so generous that the matching pot of $500,000 is too small to match dollar for dollar.

People around the state are stepping up and supporting causes they care about... thanks again to those who have chosen HOPE Center! We appreciate it!

Monday, November 16, 2009

Are you hungry yet!?!?

Don't forget to go to Boston's tonight!

Boston's has kindly agreed to give 10% of their proceeds on November 16th, 2009 from 4-8!!

Come enjoy great food and support HOPE Center, see your friends and neighbors, or get it curbside to go, or better yet- delivered right to your door.

All proceeds from tonight's event will help HOPE Center continue to provide Hope- Outreach- Prevention and Education for the people of Rice County and to help support victims of domestic and sexual violence, to continue to provide options and opportunity for all of our clients.

HOPE to see you there!

Friday, November 13, 2009

Lots of people doing good things...

This week I was struck by all of the people that continue to join together on a regular basis to do good things.

Board member Howard White and I gave a presentation to the Sunrise Exchange Club on Wednesday, and as I have mentioned before, I am a fan of service clubs. A great chance to meet people coming together to commit to doing something towards the common good.

Then Thursday I attended the Northfield Area Foundation's 15th Anniversary party at the Grand Event Center. Once again, an impressive group of people gathering to give and to continue the circle of giving, continuing to support all the good that is happening in the local community.

Here is the article about the NAF and the event.
http://www.northfieldnews.com/news.php?viewStory=50433

Then tonight I am preparing to go to the Power of the Purse Fundraiser for the United Way. As a United Way funded agency I am reminded of how powerful it is to truly live by the mission of the United Way, Give, Advocate and Volunteer.

So my question and challenge to you... how are you helping to Give, Advocate and Volunteer in your life?

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

A Healing Arts Project...

A great way to share your healing story...

The Paradise Center for the Arts is doing a public art project:

The project is to write on a piece of origami paper a story of hope, healing, or strength - a story of illness and recovery, a fragmented relationship, or of the healing of the world - your story. You can get the origami paper here at the art center. If you'd like to participate, please contact Erica at HOPE Center or talk to Tami at the Paradise. Your story will be folded into an origami creation and included with a traveling exhibition.

Call 507-332-7372 (The Paradise #) for more information!

Friday, November 6, 2009

HOPE Center in the News again :)

Board Member Howard White and I were featured in the Daily News yesterday :).
http://faribault.com/news.php?viewStory=95093

And our volunteer's story on the Level 3 Sex Offender Release featured in the Newspaper as well...
http://faribault.com/news.php?viewStory=95106

Great News!

Senators Franken, Grassley, Feinstein, Hatch Introduce Justice For Survivors Of Sexual Assault Act: Justice for Survivors of Sexual Assault Act Will Reduce Rape Kit Backlog


WASHINGTON, DC [11/05/09] –

Today, U.S. Senators Al Franken (D-Minn.), Chuck Grassley (R-Iowa), Dianne Feinstein (D-Ca.), and Orrin Hatch (R-Utah) introduced the Justice for Survivors of Sexual Assault Act of 2009. The House companion bill will be introduced by Rep. Carolyn Maloney (D-N.Y.).

The legislation will work to reduce the national backlog of over 180,000 untested rape kits currently in police storage. It will also address several other problems that work to deny justice to victims of sexual assault – including the denial of free rape kits to survivors of sexual assault and the shortage of trained health professionals capable of administering rape kit exams.

“These backlogs have serious consequences for law enforcement and public safety,” said Sen. Franken. “We just learned of a case where a rapist struck both a pregnant woman and a minor while the rape kit for one of his earlier victims sat unprocessed at a crime lab. It takes about a week to process a DNA evidence sample and there is no reason that every rape kit completed should not be tested in a timely manner.”

“It's unacceptable that rape kits sit around for months or even years while the perpetrators are still out on the streets potentially harming others. Victims deserve justice in a timely manner and our bill works to ensure that this back log is a thing of the past," Sen. Grassley said. “The denial of a rape kit to a woman in any jurisdiction and for any reason is unacceptable,” Sen. Feinstein said. “I am proud to sponsor this critical legislation that will strengthen the Debbie Smith Act and provide grant incentives to law enforcement to clear their backlog of forensic samples,” said Sen. Hatch.

“The inventory of DNA samples waiting processing in our nation is nearly 200,000. This is simply unacceptable to victims of sexual assaults who deserve quick resolution of their cases. This bill will also provide much-needed assistance to rural and tribal communities in collecting and processing evidence from sexual assaults.”

The Justice for Survivors of Sexual Assault Act of 2009:

· Requires jurisdictions applying for federal funds to implement plans to halve rape kit backlogs in a two-year period.

· Creates monetary incentives for jurisdictions to reduce their rape kit backlogs, promptly process incoming rape kits, and report their backlog numbers.

· Creates an annual reporting mechanism for rape kit backlogs across the nation.

· Requires states to be responsible for the full, upfront cost of rape kit examinations. Victims should not have to pay for rape kits and seek reimbursement.

· Requires that health professionals notify victims that they have a right to a rape kit examination free of charge.

· Creates an additional funding stream for training of sexual assault forensic medical personnel examiners through the Grants to Encourage Arrest Program.

· Defines “trained examiner” in a way that will allow rural and tribal areas to use grant funds authorized under the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) to pay for admissible rape kits, even if they don’t have certified Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners to perform them.

National supporters of this legislation include the National Alliance to End Sexual Violence, RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network), SOAR (Speaking Out About Rape), Human Rights Watch, National Network to End Domestic Violence, Family Violence Prevention Fund, Stop Family Violence, National Women's Law Center, National Health Law Program, Feminist Majority, NOW, National Partnership for Women and Families, National Research Center for Women and Families, National Council of Women’s Organizations (NCWO), Women’s Research & Education Institute (WREI), Wider Opportunities for Women, and the Equal Justice Society.

Minnesota groups supporting the legislation include the Minnesota Coalition Against Sexual Assault, the Minnesota Indian Women’s Sexual Assault Coalition, the Minnesota Nurses Association, the Minnesota Coalition for Battered Women, the Minnesota Indian Women's Resource Center, Advocates for Human Rights, the Domestic Abuse Project, Alexandra House, Breaking Free, Minnesota National Organization for Women, and the Mid-Minnesota Legal Assistance/Legal Services Advocacy Project.

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Halloween Safety Tips...

Leaders of a local violence prevention coalition are urging parents to use caution and common sense to help their little boys and ghouls have a safe Halloween.

“Trick-or-treating is supposed to be fun-filled, and it’s a Halloween tradition for many Rice County families,” said Erica Staab, executive director of the Hope Center in Faribault, which works to end domestic violence, child abuse and sexual assault. “Using common sense can prevent injuries and help keep kids safe.”

Older children might be able to make their rounds without parental supervision, but they always should travel in groups, Staab said.

Parents should accompany younger children as a precaution, Staab said. Drive slowly and enter and exit driveways carefully. Drivers also need to be on the lookout for children who might dart between parked cars or out into the street.

Teens and adults also should avoid making and taking calls on cell phones and texting while driving. A study by the Virginia Tech Transportation Institute found people driving cars were 2.8 times more likely to be involved in a crash while having cell phone conversations. People who used text messaging were 23 times more likely to be involved in a crash.

Here are some other tips to help make Halloween safe:

Costumes:
• Alter costumes that are too long to reduce the likelihood of a child tripping and falling
• Make sure masks do not obstruct vision; face paint is a good alternative
• Wear reflective fabric or tape to boost visibility
• Dress appropriately for the weather

Before heading out:
• Plan a route and make sure adults know where older children plan to go
• Stress the importance of visiting well-lit houses of neighbors, friends, relatives and acquaintances
• Set expectations for when children should return home
• Instruct children not to eat candy before parents have a chance to inspect it. This can prevent unintended exposure to food allergens and possible tampering. Documented instances of tampering with candy are rare.

While out:
• Carry a flashlight
• Stay in populated areas
• Look both ways before crossing streets; use crosswalks
— Source: HOPE Center and Amy Olson, volunteer

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Sexting... and other things from this week...

Monday was spent in Mankato looking with the Office on Justice Programs and other local providers at Best Practices, what does that mean, what does it look like for us and how would we use these to help enhance our work.

Tuesday was a subcommittee meeting of the SMART team, looking at monitoring and evaluation, how we collect data, what we look at etc. and we made some progress in that meeting. And the evening was spent with the our Volunteer Advocates who are almost done with their training for the Safeline and helping out at HOPE Center. We are thrilled to say that at this point there is 24 advocates that are almost through with the 40 hour training!

There was an article in the paper today about 2 level 3 Sex Offenders moving to the area, http://faribault.com/news.php?viewStory=94929, a community notification meeting will be held at 6:30 p.m. Nov. 4 at the Faribault City Hall Council Chambers, 208 First Ave. N.W. so as always that will generate a lot of conversation about our community, the safety of its residents, victims' rights, offender's rights... and in the meantime we are here to answer questions you may have about any of that, and the local police department is as well.

For lunch I met with a friend who is currently in the midst of some job transition and is going to use her journalism skills and expertise to help out HOPE Center, and we are so excited to have her help us out! Last year we had around 600 hours of volunteer time, and this year we have already had well over 700, and the end of the year is still a few months away! We GREATLY appreciate all of the volunteers that we have and for all that they have given to HOPE Center.

This afternoon I am presenting to a local church youth group, talking about HOPE Center, who we are, what we do and looking at cyberbulling, sexting and healthy relationships... and in doing some research for that presentation I came across these scary statistics from youth around the issue of sexting... Keep in mind these laws are specific to PA, but the stats are from a nationwide survey... http://www.tesd.k12.pa.us/tems/appliedtech/Sexting-posting.pdf


“Sexting” is a growing problem:

The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy and Cosmogirl.com
recently published results of a “sex and tech” survey which explored the connection
between teen sex and cyberspace (October 2008). The survey polled 1280 teens and
young adults between the ages of 13 and 26 about their cell phone, computer and digital
device behaviors and attitudes. The results are disturbing:

The % of teenagers who have sent or posted nude or semi-nude pictures or video of
themselves:

20% of teenagers overall
22% of teen girls
18% of teen boys
11% of young teen girls ages 13-16

The % of teenagers sending or posting sexually suggestive messages:
39% of all teenagers
37% of teen girls
40% of teen boys

Have you talked to your teens about this issue? If you haven't, let us help. We have resources and ideas on how to best help start that conversation.

Friday, October 23, 2009

A busy week...

Lots of complex cases, some great breakthroughs, some good lessons... all in a week's work here at HOPE Center :).

We are thrilled that the Minnesota Department of Health has created a new website around Sexual Violence Prevention... so now people can get a sense of what is happening at the Statewide level around prevention of sexual violence... what is working, what isn't... and how the community can come together to Imagine a World Without Sexual Violence.

http://www.health.state.mn.us/svp/

This was a collaborative effort of many amazing people around the state and it is exciting to see people coming together to discuss what Minnesota would look like without living with the fear of sexual violence.

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Candlelight Vigil...

Today started early, with speaking to the Kiwanas Club at 6:45 am. And this time I was lucky enough to be joined by a board member to help me speak to what HOPE Center does, who we help and why community involvment is so important.

And although mornings are not my thing :), speaking to Service Clubs is one of my favorite things. Getting a chance to speak to a group of people that are committed to service, that meet together to figure out how to get things done, people who put their ideals into action. Those are my kind of people!

Now on to the rest of the day and getting things ready for the Candlelight Vigil in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month at the Courthouse this evening at 6pm. We hope to see you there!

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Great Coverage!

There was some great coverage in the Faribault Daily News the past few days...

A Brave Woman shares her story...
http://faribault.com/news.php?viewStory=94546

Vigil Recognizes Domestic Abuse
http://faribault.com/news.php?viewStory=94547

Protect Victims of Domestic Violence
http://faribault.com/news.php?viewStory=94590

Thursday, October 8, 2009

A little more...

Yesterday was the celebration of Ruth's House being open for 5 years and the kickoff of the United Way Campaign at Business Before Hours for the Faribault Chamber. A chance to get together and hear what is happening with local businesses and non-profits.

Then a short staff meeting, an interview with the Daily News about our Vigil and other October events, working with a college class that is putting together brochures for us, doing some mentoring with other small non-profit directors and a chance to enjoy the fall colors later on in the day!

Today the SMART [Sexual Assault Multidisciplinary Action Response Team] evaluation sub-committee met to look at how to monitor and evaluate what we have been doing and to determine next steps. Then an interview with a college student for her paper on Public Health issues and how domestic violence affects women and children as well as the population as a whole.

I have also been doing some research for various projects and people and came across this great article: 10 Dynamics of Poverty By Ruby K. Payne
http://www.naesp.org/resources/2/Leadership_Compass/2008/LC2009v6n4a2.pdf

Welcome October!

Monday, October 5, 2009

Domestic Violence Awareness Month...

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month!! [DVAM]

See our website for lots of information on how to join us in many of the events we have coming up soon!!
www.hopecentermn.org

Today I was inspired by the many people who responded to the needs that we have put forth recently. We have been working with several families who were in need of children's clothing and within minutes of sending out the e-mail with the need we have had people step up and respond. It is so wonderful to be a part of such a giving community!

Recently I have been reminded of all the little ways that we come together to support each other. The tellers at the State Bank set out a collection jar for us to help us with the needs we didn't meet for the clients we had, I had a jewelry sale where 10% of the proceeds benefited HOPE Center, OAK Jewelry which is owned by Marypat Habermas and has beautiful handcrafted jewelry has consistently donated 10% of her proceeds to HOPE Center as well... http://home.earthlink.net/~oakjewelry/, Kids Avenue put up our needs list, and many individuals offered to help in whatever ways they could. This is one of the best parts about my job!

The importance of us coming together was also the theme from an e-mail I received today from the Office on Violence Against Women talking about DVAM activities across the country.

As President Obama states, “Together, we must ensure that, in America, no victim of domestic violence ever struggles alone." Therefore, we, as agents of social change, must elevate the conversation so that Americans understand that violence against women and girls is unacceptable in our homes, schools, and communities – stretching as far north as our Native Alaska villages and as far west as the American Samoa territory.

Violence against women is the seed to so many other forms of violence. This shift must happen because violence against women continues to have devastating effects on entire communities. When children witness violence in the home, those children are impacted by what they have seen and often experienced themselves. Therefore, all members of the community must be engaged to end the violence. Parents, grandparents, siblings, co-workers, coaches, mentors, teachers, religious leaders, must all be involved.

Here is the National Proclamation for Domestic Violence Awareness Month:
http://www.whitehouse.gov/assets/documents/2009domvio_prc_rel.pdf

Friday, October 2, 2009

Why it affects us all...

Here is a well articulated piece on why rape affects us all...

But rape isn't just a crime against one person, and we don't prosecute it in order to fulfill any one victim's needs or wishes. Rape is a crime against the social fabric that binds all of us together. The act violates what should be one of our core values as a civilization: that every person of every gender and age has the right to bodily autonomy -- to basic safety in our bodies. When that right is violated and the perpetrator goes unpunished, it makes all of us less safe. Not just because there's one more rapist on the loose, but because that lack of accountability sends a message to other would-be rapists: Go ahead and rape someone. The rest of us don't care that much, as long as it's not us or someone we love. In this case, we might add a caveat: Especially if you're rich and talented and have powerful friends.Read more at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jaclyn-friedman/we-are-all-polanskis-vict_b_306211.html

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Whew... A Busy Day!

A busy day for the director yesterday... lots to do.

The day started with learning more about Project Home and some of their resources, getting a chance to connect and see what we could do. It is amazing to realize how many agencies are working together to help provide services to those most in need in our community.

Then on to the Northfield United Way Kick-Off to be able to express our gratitude for the grat campaign last year and how important the United Way funds are to our agency, then off to a short staff meeting, then off to present on Healthy Relationships to 50 7th and 8th graders at Trondjhem Lutheran Church.

Wow! Were the kids full of energy :). We had a great time discussing healthy boundaries, what a healthy relationship looks like and talking about respect. We watched a 13 min. video (you can click here to watch) http://www.chooserespect.org/scripts/materials/videos/video_13min.asp I had the kids do a skit around whatever boundary their group had, emotional, physical, intellectual etc. The kids had a great time, lots of giggling and some great and not so great acting :). But we had fun and each person hopefully walked away with a little more information than they had before.